Wednesday, December 29, 2010
my rigid heart is tenderly unmanned---
what I possess seems something far away
and what had disappeared proves real.
Ein Schauer faßt mich, Träne folgt den Tränen,
Das strenge Herz, es fühlt sich mild und weich;
Was ich besitze, seh ich wie im Weiten,
Und was verschwand, wird mir zu Wirklichkeiten.
--Faust: A Tragedy, lines 29-32
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Monday, December 27, 2010
Friday, December 17, 2010
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
Monday, November 29, 2010
Adaptation is a little bit like death: we fear it, fight it, and sometimes forestall it, but in the end, we always lose. And like death, there may be benefits to accepting its inevitability. If we inevitably adapt to the greatest delights that money can buy, than it may be better to indulge in a variety of frequent, small pleasures—double lattes, uptown pedicures, and high thread-count socks— rather than pouring money into large purchases, such as sports cars, dream vacations, and front-row concert tickets. This is not to say that there's anything wrong with large purchases, but as long as money is limited by its failure to grow on trees, we may be better off devoting our finite financial resources to purchasing frequent doses of lovely things rather than infrequent doses of lovelier things. Indeed, across many different domains, happiness is more strongly associated with the frequency than the intensity of people's positive affective experiences
--From "If Money Doesn't Make You Happy Then You Probably Aren't Spending It Right," by Elizabeth Dunn (University of British Columbia), Daniel T. Gilbert (Harvard University), Timothy D. Wilson (University of Virginia), 2010.
Saturday, November 27, 2010
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
--Sherlock Holmes in "The Red-Headed League"
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Monday, November 8, 2010
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Saturday, October 30, 2010
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Friday, September 17, 2010
Saturday, September 4, 2010
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
"The actions of men are the best interpreters of their thoughts."
Saturday, August 28, 2010
Wednesday, August 11, 2010
"Never let one man worry your mind. Find 'em, fool 'em, and forget 'em."
"Don't worry; I ain't gonna hurt him. I just want to feel his muscles."
"I don't suppose you believe in marriage, do you?"
"Only as a last resort."
--from I'm No Angel
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
It's Good We Only See Each Other Once a Week
It's good we only see each other once a week.
A young man about to move in with his fiancée
died of a sudden heart attack at twenty-six.
One hears these stories all the time.
The heart is trained to handle deprivation,
not unforeseen happiness. Just as when you
throw your arms around me I start to overflow,
but then I think of course, where was she before?
I deserve it and a lot more besides—
your love gets soaked up quickly
and I pull back brooding over something
I never had.
But don't stop on that account, keep going.
I was brought up to make
the most of accidental brushes with kindness.
My pleasures were collected almost unawares
from stationary models, like the girl
who sat in front of me in tenth grade,
who let me stroke and braid her golden hair
and never acknowledged it.
I wouldn't know what to do with frontal love;
would I? One snowy winter night in Montreal
I felt so great I danced a flamenco
and insisted that everyone call me Fernando.
But then I was by myself. And last night,
if there are many more nights
like last night with you —
when I think of all my nights of total happiness
I get the panicky sense that the balance
has already tipped,
and I will never again feel free
to pass myself off as a have-not.
Maybe it's good we only see each other once a week.
But don't stop on that account, keep going.
"It's Good We Only See Each Other Once a Week" by Phillip Lopate, from At the End of the Day. © Marsh Hawk Press, 2010.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
Monday, August 2, 2010
Sunday, July 25, 2010
--from A Brief History of Anxiety (Yours and Mine)
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
Saturday, June 26, 2010
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Sunday, June 13, 2010
--"Modern Love," New York Times, June 13, 2010
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Monday, June 7, 2010
-From The Mapping of Love and Death (2010)
Friday, June 4, 2010
Plug the hell into life! That attitude of being hopeful and invincible can come back. It exists inside us. The belief in a future of endless possibilities doesn't have to go away just because we get older. We can start making a whole list of why it won't work out ... or make a list of why it will. Or screw the list, just go live some life.
The best times are when you spend more energy living and less time worrying about consequences that may never come to pass. I'm writing this not to lecture you but to remind myself to just relax.
Sunday, May 23, 2010
Mr. McPhearson, 45, said he liked the fact that Ms. Jacobs was confident enough to cut her hair very short and go out some Saturday nights without him.
The couple made a pact not to argue about things like who did the dishes or made more money. "You don't need to deal with put-downs or whispers of failure at home," Mr. McPhearson said. "You need to come home to someone who believes in you."
--L.S. Brady (May 21, 2010). Retrieved from http://www.nytimes.com/2010/05/23/fashion/weddings/23VOWS.html?ref=weddings
Monday, May 17, 2010
Friday, May 14, 2010
1. Out of clutter, find simplicity.
2. From discord, find harmony.
3. In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.
May you have a calm, clear mind and a peaceful, loving heart.
May you be physically strong, healthy, and vital.
May you experience love, joy, wonder, and wisdom in this life, just as it is.
With a mind like this, we always have a choice in how we respond to life around us.
(Words to Live By, May 18)
Accept everything that confronts you with a positive attitude. ...Just make sure you aren't trying to avoid the things that are coming, and don't try to cling to the things that are leaving.
Become a brave person who is never stained by anything or attached to anything.
Become a true human being, a person who is both the most normal and the most extraordinary.
"No River to Cross"
Zen Master Dae Haeng
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Monday, April 19, 2010
--from 59 Seconds
--from The Feminine Mystique
Sunday, April 18, 2010
The only thing that ever matters in success or achievement is achieving the things that you want to achieve.
So if you're feeling uncomfortable about the standards that you've set, tweak the standards back a little bit. Ratchet it back a notch. Give yourself a break. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Lighten up. Be easier. Go slower. Take it easy. Have more fun. Love yourself more. Laugh more. Appreciate more.
All is well. You can't get it wrong. You never get it done.
--as quoted in Bad Girls Go Everywhere: The Life of Helen Gurley Brown by Jennifer Scanlon
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
--from Jane Eyre
--from Jane Eyre
Monday, April 12, 2010
Sunday, April 4, 2010
from Chocolate Principles to Live By, p. 48
from On Food and Cooking, p. 707
Saturday, April 3, 2010
--from "Ultimate Chocolate Cupcakes," Cooks Illustrated, May 2010 (emphasis added)
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Saturday, March 13, 2010
from Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience
Friday, March 5, 2010
Anything worth doing is worth doing slowly.
A dame that knows the ropes isn't likely to get tied up.
Between two evils, I always pick the one I never tried before.
I believe that it's better to be looked over than it is to be overlooked.
I didn't discover curves; I only uncovered them.
The curve is more powerful than the sword.
I generally avoid temptation unless I can't resist it.
I've been in more laps than a napkin.
Save a boyfriend for a rainy day - and another, in case it doesn't rain.
A hard man is good to find.
To err is human, but it feels divine.
When I'm good I'm very, very good, but when I'm bad, I'm better.
You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.
If I asked for a cup of coffee, someone would search for the double meaning.
Good sex is like good Bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you'd better have a good hand.
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Sunday, February 14, 2010
Saturday, February 13, 2010
Monday, February 8, 2010
Friday, February 5, 2010
Saturday, January 30, 2010
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Friday, January 22, 2010
--Shevory, Kristina. (2010, January 21). Out of Work Architects Turn to Other Skills. New York Times, D1.
-on rowing solo across the Atlantic
-on rowing solo across the Atlantic (rowforwater.com)
Sunday, January 3, 2010
Avoid aged or strong cheese, particularly cheddar cheese.
Avoid chicken livers, pickled herring, canned figs, pods of broad beans, nuts and chocolate.
No monosodium glutamate (MSG).
Avoid cured meats such as hot dogs, bacon, ham, and salami if these cause vascular headaches.
Eat three well-balanced meals per day. Avoid skipping meals, prolonged fasting, or excessive carbohydrates.
Saturday, January 2, 2010
--Among the Mad: A Maisie Dobbs Novel (2009)